Building up the rapport with the clients is the fundamental requirement for an effective counseling session. Clients don’t care what counselors know, until they know that the counselors care. In class, I had couple opportunities to practice developing trust-worthy relationship with the “client”. I notice that it is …show more content…
Coping refers to expending conscious effort to solve personal and interpersonal problems. People in crisis oftentimes don’t see the way out. They feel helpless and hopeless. They might cover up their anger, fear, hurt with chemical abuse, criminal activities. Once the counselors identify the problem, it’s time to help the clients with strengthening their existing coping skills or establishing new coping skills to the problem solving. In the coping process, the counselors should have the client to explore their own attempts at coping and think of what they would like to do now. If the clients think of the new coping behaviors on their own, they are more likely to follow through with a plan. Teaching the clients how to fish is better than giving them fish. It sounds easy, yet, it is very hard to do so. When we see someone is in hunger, we would give the person food and water right away. We don’t wait to tell them the reason for your hunger and the actions you can take to help yourself. Nevertheless, when I see the client is struggling and desperate, I tend to give solutions right away, especially if I have attachment to the client. I think it is human nature to aid other people to stop their sufferings. On the other hand, I am afraid that this will create dependency of the client. I want the client to grow, to have the ability to cope with current and future crisis, I want to teach the client fishing. However, it is hard to do so in reality. I grow up in China, my mother used to plan everything for me because she couldn’t take the risk of me being hurt. Under my parents’ overprotection, I never have crisis in my life. When I see my friends or clients suffering, I want to design a best path and lead them through crisis. I feel I am responsible for their well-being. Maybe one day, I can objectively analyze the situation, and enable the clients or my friends exploring their own solutions even