After I have viewed how they use their communication to be assertive, I should practice these techniques to myself. For example, I should try using the desensitization technique. This is when I think of a situation when I’m usually non-assertive, determine my desired behavior, imagine myself executing that behavior in my head until the anxiety of it goes away, then think of the next step to reach what I want and visualize myself in that step until discomfort vanishes as well. This imagining until I’m comfortable technique keeps repeating until I have accomplished telling someone my wants/needs are. This technique is all mental, until I am completely comfortable and am ready to give it a try physically. It’s probably best to practice with a friend before doing this to someone of higher status such as a …show more content…
To do this I need to start using a process called perception checking. To execute a successful perception check, I must first describe what I see or hear. Then, I need to ask them if what I think is true or not by suggesting multiple explanations. Then, ask which one, if any, are true. Think about this example, during an examination last week, you see your friend looking over at your paper and want to confront him. I would say something like “Hey, during the exam last week, I thought I saw you glancing at my exam. Were you just totally spacing out or would you like some tutoring?” This perception check is much better than assuming they cheated and confronting them about how wrong that