Conflict within most close interpersonal relationships are nearly unavoidable especially if you try to make decisions with this person. This is why learning how to deal with situations like these is so important. In order to do this someone must reflect upon their own conflict management style as well as the conflict management style of the person they and trying to establish a stronger relationship and communicate with. To better explain this I will use a conflict that I am going through with a certain individual in my life as an example. This will display the current conflict within my chosen relationship and a brief plan to solve our current conflict using collaboration.
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I can see how this applies to me because when I am faced with a situation where I have to solve a conflict with someone, I typically like to find win-win situations. For example, on one of our First dates she didn’t want to do anything to expansive I didn’t want to travel too far so, we came to the conclusion that we should do a hike that was near her house. On the other hand I can also be very competitive because I have the tendency to feel like my opinions are the only one that are valid. One we got into an argument because I was late because I had spent too much time at the beach with my friends and missed a date. Although, I was completely in the wrong a said she was making a bigger deal out of it then she needed to. I was trying to get her to brush it off because it was hard for me to admit that I was wrong and shouldn’t have been late. My partners conflict management style is collaboration as well because she work with me to solve goals we are both trying to achieve. I told her that over the winter break she probably can’t stay over at my place too much because I have to clean a lot and still have to go to class. She suggested that she stay over at my place and while I was gone during my classes she could help me clean-up so we could maximize the amount of time we had together. I stated that our conflict management styles were Collaboration …show more content…
This is so that I don’t feel like I could be using the time better and she feels like we are growing as a couple. One I Message I would use to help my partner understand my position and interest is “I get frustrated when we cannot determine what times are okay to talk on the phone and for how long we should talk”. “I would like to know this so we could use the time in our day more efficiently”. The First Solution we could implement using collaboration is we could make a schedule of the times that we are most available and use the best times from both of our schedules and make schedule of the best times for us to talk. The second solution would be whenever my partner felt like she wanted to talk she could text me first and ask if I’m available. Since, I am typically always able to text I would tell either “Yes” or “No” and how long it should be till I am able to talk to