If we know where the boundaries are and what the rules are, we stand a better chance at having a truly dialogical conversation. We “listen, attend, and negotiate” (95). I anticipate that our largest difficulty will be “listening without demanding” (95) and negating the impulse to tell our opinions as opposed to pure engagement. I think this is partially gendered behavior: many girls I know are used to being spoken over and I’m no exception. We are used to speaking quickly lest we be over-ridden, and when those two behaviors join together is can mean a lot of fast talking and a lot of accidental
If we know where the boundaries are and what the rules are, we stand a better chance at having a truly dialogical conversation. We “listen, attend, and negotiate” (95). I anticipate that our largest difficulty will be “listening without demanding” (95) and negating the impulse to tell our opinions as opposed to pure engagement. I think this is partially gendered behavior: many girls I know are used to being spoken over and I’m no exception. We are used to speaking quickly lest we be over-ridden, and when those two behaviors join together is can mean a lot of fast talking and a lot of accidental