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In the past I have always worked but I was able to quit working last April and stay home. The pattern of communication that I use the most often is blamer. I felt the need to structure our family with explicit rules when we first married in 2009. Everyone needed to be “one the same page,” and I used this confrontational style to accomplish my goal. I first learned this style from my mother and it was further reinforced in my first marriage. Being confrontational was the only way I felt I could be heard and I used it more frequently from that time on. Over the last two years I have relaxed to a certain extent in both my auditory tone and physical posture. As our home has settled down and our family has adjusted to all of the changes, I no longer feel the need to be so dictator like towards the others in our