Newly Married couples often have relationship issues relating to gender specific conversations and emotions which can lead to really bad and unhealthy relationships. Luckily there are guidance counselors to solve these problems. But what advice should these counselors give to their clients and what articles would be best suited for situations such as these? There are 2 really informative essays I have read, “His Talk, Her Talk” by Joyce Maynard and “Man to Man, Woman to Woman” by Mark A. Sherman and Adelaide Haas, that would be best to share with couples all over the world. “His Talk, Her Talk” by Joyce Maynard is based on the authors own personal experience with how the conversations between male and …show more content…
Sherman and Adelaide Haas talked more about facts and statistics rather than from personal experiences. The author states, “When it comes to conversation, husband and wives often have problems that close friends of the same sex don’t have.”(32) It was said husband and wives may not have much to talk about and when they do talk, misunderstandings often develop that lead to major fights. Sherman and Haas had surveyed over 100 men and women nationally concluding men and women tend to talk about different things with their same-sex friends, with men talking mostly about sports and current events and women talking about family and health. Of course there are men who would rather talk about family and women who would love talking about sports but for the typical couple, there will be areas of importance that the other partner would not be interested in. When they asked men what they like best about their male talk, they responded “You don’t have to watch what you say.”(33) When the women were approached with the same question, most mentioned empathy or understanding, which careful understanding and talking. Although men can be good listeners and understanding and women can give quick direct advice, both men and women need their own private time with their own sex. There is no reason each must change to the other’s style, but what is most important is they learn to recognize and respect