A survival stance is a form of defense that we will unknowing act upon as it is in our nature to react in that manner, but through the use of understand the stances, we can nurture the habit of being congruent.
As the humanistic theory contends that a personality will stress the basic goodness of human beings and the need to achieve one's full potential (HS 421 - Bellevue University, 2018) is understandable, it is not naturally achievable without help. Virginia Satir’s models and theories of family therapy can be within the family structure by addressing a person’s actions, emotions, and perceptions as they relate to that person’s dynamic within the family unit (Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy, 2016) that is designed to create change and leave a lasting impression. Satir’s model is used to readjust one’s own self through communication, insights, feelings, and thoughts which can have a lasting effect on an individual’s interpersonal relationship that is connected with the persons spirt, body, and mind. While this model may seem like other that have been created, the difference is that instead of a brief improvement, it is …show more content…
(Are You a Placater, 2010). A therapist would attempt to identify the five communication survival stances of the congruent, placater, blamer, super-reasonable, and irrelevant. All of these stances acknowledge the three realities that is themselves, others, and the context.
On a daily basis of a standard individual’s life they may feel they are level or congruent, when not realizing they are in a survival stance when it comes to interacting with others. Of the five stances, congruent is what they may feel, but they may be placate–appease the other person to avoid anger, blaming–the fault is on the other person, super reasonable–hide behind words and intellectual concepts, and/or irrelevant–ignore threat, hoping to go away if done long enough (Are You a Placater, 2010) and need help to develop the skill that will aid in controlling their reactions to a supposed