This is something I was familiar with before this textbook and exercise on language. You see it in movies and tv shows all the time, a couple is in a therapy session and the counselor makes one of them use an I-statement to express a frustration they are experiencing. This method is used a lot because it is a method that works. When you use a you-statement that not only puts the blame on the person you are speaking you that also creates defensiveness within the person you are speaking to. It’s always best to say, “I feel this… when you did this …because of this…and I would be grateful if…” This prevents the person from feeling like you are condemning them. This also opens it up for constructive dialogue with the other
This is something I was familiar with before this textbook and exercise on language. You see it in movies and tv shows all the time, a couple is in a therapy session and the counselor makes one of them use an I-statement to express a frustration they are experiencing. This method is used a lot because it is a method that works. When you use a you-statement that not only puts the blame on the person you are speaking you that also creates defensiveness within the person you are speaking to. It’s always best to say, “I feel this… when you did this …because of this…and I would be grateful if…” This prevents the person from feeling like you are condemning them. This also opens it up for constructive dialogue with the other