Double Bind Analysis

I had a tough time thinking of a double bind I myself have been in on the spot. I’m sure at one time or another I have been in a double bind in my life a nearly everyone has. The closest I could think of I myself potentially putting someone else in a double bind as of recently. I have a particular coworker who I am not very fond of for a multitude of reasons a main one being that he talk incessantly and most often regarding her negative opinions on other coworkers. Although I’m nice to her and make my best efforts not to disturb the working relationship it has become painfully obvious through my avoidant behavior that I’m not fond of her.

We work in a retail environment both of us often closing the store and on the evenings we work together she sticks closely by my side and over the months since she began working she has seemed to grow increasingly fond of me. This coworker has begun to invite me to hang out with her outside of work and I find any excuse as to why I can’t and over time my excuse have grown increasingly transparent. I make a great effort to be kind to her and maintain a civil demeanor to keep thing from becoming awkward or uncomfortable. It seems that she has mistaken this for friendship and as I continually deny her request to hang out outside of work she’ s most likely getting fairly mixed signals. …show more content…
Many of my coworkers are my friends and we often get together outside of work most recently having a night out together that turned into a “store sleepover”, in which four girls from work spent the night at my house. Two of the girls were discussing some of the events from that night in the break area and she had overheard it. She questioned me about it in a seemingly non-confrontational way but it was fairly obvious her feeling had been hurt. I didn’t know if I was supposed to apologize or how to do so without indicating that we actively didn’t invite