Funeral Plan For Rebecca James

Rejecting Tradition: A Funeral Plan for Rebecca James It is unfortunate that society seems to give far less consideration to planning for death than is given to planning the other major events in life like birth or marriage. As death is our final chance to speak to those we love, and given that we are unable to predict when it will happen; it is advisable to consider funeral planning early, and communicate and record these desires to eliminate confusion when the need for them arises. This paper outlines my preferences for the treatment of my body following my death. It is my hope that my funeral will be a reflection of the way I lived and that those I love will find closure and peace through this experience. I have no interest in the traditional …show more content…
Although I do not wish to have a tombstone or marker of any kind, I hope that my loved ones consider the following statement when they think of me, find happiness where you are. It has always been most important to me that I am able to find joy in the singular moments of life. I hope that those I love remember me when a cool breeze on a summer day makes them smile and close their eyes, or a baby giggles, or any one of the countless things that are so beautiful and simple. This is how I want to be remembered, in all of the little things that can bring joy. I want my life, and death, to remind those I love to find what makes them happy and do it. To find joy where they can, and create it when they are …show more content…
What I prefer, is a celebration of my life. I hope that my family and friends gather at a park on the banks of Lake Michigan, bring pictures and share memories with each other. I want the people I love to enjoy good food, wine, and beer, and to dance and laugh and remember the best parts of me. I want my loved ones to add to a playlist as they go, and tell stories about why the song makes them think of me. I would like for anyone who would like to say a few words to be given the opportunity to do so, but I do not wish to require this of anyone. Similarly, I do not want to restrict the comments anyone may like to make. Although I am a Christian, I feel that if I have lived my life as I should, I have no need for Bible verses to remind those I love that I am in a better place. Ideally, my friends and family will enjoy the beauty of one of the places I love most in the world, the company of each other, and find closure and