In the end, Terry changed by learning to understand just how bad the war in Vietnam was for his father and that it caused his father’s suffering. Terry was brought into the cave of his father’s suffering when his father finally opened up and shared his experience of being the sole survivor of 54 soldiers. Paulson explains how this knowledge brought Terry further into adolescence, closer to true manhood and adult maturity when he says “He understood only that he didn’t understand and that he would probably never understand what had truly happened...But Terry knew that it didn’t matter...he would not be embarrassed when his father’s eyes went away...Terry had knowledge now.” This is a sign of adulthood. Accepting the unknown. Taking comfort in knowledge even though you are useless in changing an outcome. Terry knew he could change the way he treated his father’s moments of disappearing. His knowledge gave him power over feeling embarrassed about it. His knowledge gave him compassion and empathy for his father even though the situation was something Terry could not really relate
In the end, Terry changed by learning to understand just how bad the war in Vietnam was for his father and that it caused his father’s suffering. Terry was brought into the cave of his father’s suffering when his father finally opened up and shared his experience of being the sole survivor of 54 soldiers. Paulson explains how this knowledge brought Terry further into adolescence, closer to true manhood and adult maturity when he says “He understood only that he didn’t understand and that he would probably never understand what had truly happened...But Terry knew that it didn’t matter...he would not be embarrassed when his father’s eyes went away...Terry had knowledge now.” This is a sign of adulthood. Accepting the unknown. Taking comfort in knowledge even though you are useless in changing an outcome. Terry knew he could change the way he treated his father’s moments of disappearing. His knowledge gave him power over feeling embarrassed about it. His knowledge gave him compassion and empathy for his father even though the situation was something Terry could not really relate