The true self leads to the infant feeling real. The infant can feel creative and spontaneous. The false self focuses on complying with the wants of the attachment figure thus focusing on their needs rather than the self. The true self develops when one experiences “good enough mothering” as he or she is able to develop omnipotence and feel that he or she is real and has control over the world around him or her to make things happen. The false self develops when the mother is either “too good” of a mother or is not good enough. When the mother is not in tune with the child, he or she is left feeling empty, or feeling unreal whereas if the mother is too good the child fails to develop a sense of true self, believing one to be an extension of the
The true self leads to the infant feeling real. The infant can feel creative and spontaneous. The false self focuses on complying with the wants of the attachment figure thus focusing on their needs rather than the self. The true self develops when one experiences “good enough mothering” as he or she is able to develop omnipotence and feel that he or she is real and has control over the world around him or her to make things happen. The false self develops when the mother is either “too good” of a mother or is not good enough. When the mother is not in tune with the child, he or she is left feeling empty, or feeling unreal whereas if the mother is too good the child fails to develop a sense of true self, believing one to be an extension of the