This is where he added “things over which we have some but not complete control” (Irvine, Handout). The main idea of the Trichotomy of Control is not to set easy goals but rather set rational internal goals in order to lessen our disappointment when it comes to unwanted outcomes.
In addition, the Four Tendencies reading had helped me become aware of the fact that I am an Obliger. It makes sense as to why it is hard for me to tell others no and why I have such difficulty keeping my internal goals. In result of knowing this about myself, I want to become stricter when it comes to making decisions about going out with my friends. Instead of always telling them yes, when they ask for favors, I will assess my current priorities. I have talked to my suite mates about the reading, and by giving them this information, they have become more understanding and supportive of the reasons why I have not been able to go out much. Instead of going out, we go to the library and study together. When we finish our work, we go to the Kat Klub to play pool or air hockey. There has not been a problem, but knowing myself, I made sure to include my sister in this process. She is an Upholder, so I know