Yet, he did not approve of me going out with my friends (because of the certain crowd I hung around at this point). This irritated me a quite a bit, because if he could go out with his friends, I should be able to do the same with mine. I brought this to his attention and we discussed how occasionally we both just need some alone time. After talking it over we found a compromise. Instead of disconnecting ourselves from our friends completely , we were to spend an equal amount of time with each other as well as our friends to satisfy us both . He enjoys spending time with his friends just as much as I enjoy spending time with mine. Research by Slotter, Duffy, & Gardner (2014) shows , "Just as individuals negotiate their social identities within groups to satisfy both affiliation and distinctiveness needs, individuals in romantic relationships strive to balance similar needs at the dyadic level." Moreover, that is exactly what we did. We have come to an understanding and found a balance for the two of
Yet, he did not approve of me going out with my friends (because of the certain crowd I hung around at this point). This irritated me a quite a bit, because if he could go out with his friends, I should be able to do the same with mine. I brought this to his attention and we discussed how occasionally we both just need some alone time. After talking it over we found a compromise. Instead of disconnecting ourselves from our friends completely , we were to spend an equal amount of time with each other as well as our friends to satisfy us both . He enjoys spending time with his friends just as much as I enjoy spending time with mine. Research by Slotter, Duffy, & Gardner (2014) shows , "Just as individuals negotiate their social identities within groups to satisfy both affiliation and distinctiveness needs, individuals in romantic relationships strive to balance similar needs at the dyadic level." Moreover, that is exactly what we did. We have come to an understanding and found a balance for the two of