To be able to feel ashamed, it is necessary that the child is separated from his mother, to empower capacity for an opinion and realization, as well as prediction. It is necessary that the child knows that something is not right to be ashamed of that.
So, this emotion involves thinking in a way that implies the development of capacities for the opinion. Shame is in the beginning of life of a small range. So, while the children get to know the world they do not have much reason to be ashamed. …show more content…
Healthy counterpart to shame would be regret. So it is not advisable to be ashamed whatever done, it can only hinder us from taking constructive measures. There is a significant difference between shame and regret that can be seen in the way of thinking as well as in taking action. When a person is ashamed of, its opinion is harsh and excessive. It overestimates the negative effects of such a feeling, in a state that is outraged by the committed that overlooks the disastrous outcomes and exaggerates in conviction of what others think about it and that "all of them" even ridicule for what is happened. Such over-thinking results in an over-behavior. Then the person tries to escape from others, to hide in the "mouse hole" and there to be ashamed of itself. Also, people can become aggressive and tend to attack and belittle others in order to save themselves from shame, they believe that is portentous for them. A person who is ashamed does not want to hear a rational explanation that this shame will go away and that there is nothing so bad about feeling ashamed. One is deaf to such remarks and rather desperate. So, this is how ashamed persons think and