Chapter 9, 10, 11,& 12

clashing goals wether they be something everday or fundamental that creates conflict

The process that occurs when people perceive they have incompatible goals or behaviors or that someone is interfering in their ability to achieve their objectives

the dramatic rise in emotional intensity and increasingly negative communication during conflict, such as teasing that inflates to a heated exchange of insults

a way of handling conflict in which one partner in a relationship demands that his or her goals be met, and the other partner responds by withdrawing from the conversation

when one person gets his or her way in a conflict by influencing the other to engage in accommodation and abandon his or her goals

a mistaken perception that a conflict exists when it doesn't

control over a resource that other people value

statements that are honest in content but have been kept hidden to protect a partner's feelings

designed to hurt

when people agree to change the basic rules or understandings that govern their relationships to prevent further conflict

the idea that people with only moderate power are most likely to use controlling communication

messages communicated at the height of a conflict that suddenly declare the end of a relationship, even if it wasn't an option before

a way of handling conflict by not pursuing conflict-related goals at all and communicating in an emotionally explosive and negative fashion instead

a series of unresolved disputes all having to do with the same issue

an intense emotional commitment based on intimacy, caring and attachment

a feeling of affection and respect typical of friendship

1. Storage

2. Pragma

3. Agape

4. Ludus

5. Mania

6. Eros

a state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with one another

An intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and interdependent lives

-friendly lovers

-stable, predictable, and rooted in friendship

-Practical lovers

-logical, rational, and founded in common sense

-forgiving lovers

- patient, selfless, giving, and unconditional

-game-playing lovers

- uncommitted, fun, and played like a game

-obsessive lovers

-intense, tumultuous, extreme, and all-consuming

-romantic lovers

- sentimental, romantic, idealistic, and committed

1. initiating

2. experimenting

3. intensifying

4. integrating

5. bonding

a relationship stage in which partners avoid talking about topics that produce conflict

a relationship stage in which two people meet and form their first impression of each other

a relationship in which two people become acquainted by sharing factual information about themselves and making light conversation and small talk

a relationship stage characterized by deeper self-disclosures, stronger attraction, and intimate communication

a relationship stage in which two people become a couple and begin to share an identity

a relationship stage in which an official, public ritual unites two people by the laws or customs of their culture

the idea that you will be drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits with few associated costs.

tension between competing impulses

-autonomy vs. connection

-openness vs. protection

tension between identity and connection to family members; major during adolescent years

ex: family sees you as only the family clown

-solved through sharing tasks and cultivating social networks

tension fo wanting to share personal information and to protect ourselves from the possible negative consequences of such sharing

-family privacy rules

the conditions governing what family members can talk about, how they can discuss such topics, and who should have access to family-relevant information

The idea that individuals create informational boundaries by choosing carefully the kind of private information they reveal and the people with whom they share it

- proximity

-physical attractiveness

-similarity

-reciprocal liking

-resources

clash between our need for stability and our need for excitement

1. Differentiating

2. Circumbscribing

3. Stagnating

4. Avoiding

5. Terminating

a relational stage in which the beliefs, attitudes, and values that distinguish you from your partner come to a dominate your thoughts and communication

a relational stage in which communication comes to a stand still

a relational stage in which one or both indiduals ina couple try to distance themselves from each other physically

a relational stage in which one or both partners end a relationship

a tendency for physical attractiveness to create the perception of competency and intelligence

a tendency to be attracted to others if we perceive them to have similar levels of physical attractiveness, values, and interests

a phenomenon in which you feel more attracted to those with whom you have frequent contact and vice Versa

a tendency to be attracted to others whom we perceive to be at our own level of attractiveness

the balance of benefits and costs exchanged by you and a romantic interest that determines whether a romantic relationship will take root (after attractiveness is established).

act that goes against expectations of a romantic relationship and as a result cause pain to a partner

the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime

1. Nuclear

2. Extended

3. Stepfamilies

4. Single-parent

5. Cohabiting

a family type consisting of a father, a mother, and their biological or adopted kids

a family type consisting od a group fo people who are related to one another such as aunts, unlces, cousins, or grandparents, who all live in the same house

a family type where at least one of the adults has a child or children from a previous relationship

a household in which one adult has sole responsibility to be the children's caregiver

two unmarried adults who are involved romantically and lie together with or without children

1. courtship

2. birth

3. entrance

4. survival

stories of how the parents fell in love that emphasize the solidity of the parents' relationship

describes the latter stages of pregnancy, childbirth, and early infancy of a child

stories provide the adopted child with sense of personal belonging and self esteem, explains why and how they were adopted/chosen

realate the coping strategies family memebers hav eused to deal with major challenges

idea that two dimensions-conformity orientation and conversation orintation- underlie the communication between family memebrs

the degree to which family members believe communication should emphasize similarity or diversity in attitudes, beliefs, and values

the degree to which family mebers are encouraged to participate in unrestrained interaction about a wide array of topics

families characterized by high levels of conformity and conversation orientation

families characterized by low levels of conformity and high levels of conversation orientation

Families characterized by high levels of conformity and low levels of conversation

families characterized by low levels of conformity and conversation orientation

maintenance strategy for families in which you communicate with your family in an upbeat and hopeful fashion

-do favors unexpectedly

loyalty conflicts that arise when a coalition is formed uniting one family member with another against a third family member

when one or both parents allocate an unfair amount of valuable resources to one child over others

overt, hostile interactions between parents in a household

the idea that emotions, affect, and mood from parental relationships spillover inot the broader family , disrupting childrens sense of emotional security

traditions

unwelcome sexual advances, physical contact, or requests that render a workplace offensive

general principles for appropriate communication and behavior within friendships

1. show support

2. seek support

3. respect privacy

4. keep confidences

5. defend your friends

6. avoid public criticism

7. make your friends happy

8. manage jealousy

9. share humor

10. maintain equity

a distinct set of workplace traditions, values, and practices

communication links among an organization's members, such as the nature, frequency, and ways information is exchanged

groups of coworkers linked solely through email, Skype, and other communication technologies

Dense networks of coworkers who share the same workplace values and broader life attitudes

Any affiliation you ahve with a proffessional peer, supervisor, subordinate, or mentor in a proffessional setting

Voluntary Friendhsips focused on shring time and activities together

Voluntary friendships primarily focused on achieving specific and practical goals

Friendships negotiated to include sexual activity but not with a romantic attachment

people with whom you exchange a deep personal connection and information

friendship serves two major functions, companionship and achievement of practical goals.

-communal and agentic

Voluntary

Driven by shared interests

characterized by self-disclosure

rooted in liking

volatile

-Best Friends

-Cross category Friendships

1. cross sex

2. cross orientation

3. intercultural

4. interethnic

1. strong sense of family identity

2. define boundaries

3.intense and complex emotional bonds

4. share a history

5. share genetic material

6. juggle multiple roles

beliefs people share about work performance, dedication to the organization, and coworker relationships

guidelines governing appropriate interpersonal communication and relationships

the objects and structures that define the organization

-organizational climate

-supportive climate

-defensive climate

the overarching emotional quality of a workplace environment

a workplace atmoshphere that is supportive, warm, and open

a workplace atmosphere that is unfriendly, rigid, or unsupportive of worker's professional and personal needs

relationships with people holding positions of organizational status and power similar to our own

1. positivity

2. assurances

3. sharing tasks

4. acceptance

5. self-disclosure

6. relationship talks

7. social networks

the violation of one's independence and privacy by a person who desires an intimate relationship