Counseling Final

1) Positive, accepting view of other people

2) Good self-esteem and is mentally healthy

3) Good self-care skills

4) Creative and competent appreciating both the science and the art of helping

5) Courage

The relationship comes before the invitation and you better keep your power in check so they want a relationship with you that will allow for an invitation.

-Memories

-Values

-Interests

-Images past and future

-Beliefs

-Expectations

-Assumptions

-Experiences

-Attitudes

-Strong Feelings

-Cultures

Listening - 40%

Talking - 35%

Reading - 16%

Writing - 9%

Verbal - 7%

Tone - 38%

Facial Expressions (Posture, Gesture, Eye Contact) - 58%

-Exclamation of Surprise

-Being Punitive

-Giving False/Superficial Reassurance

-Psychobabble and premature interpretations

-Probing Traumatic issues

-Avoidance of strong feelings

-Giving advice

-Making the situation about you

-Jumping into problem solving too quickly

-Not making timely referrals

-Interrogating

-Promising confidentiality

-Under involvement

-Over involvement

1) Square Up

2) Open

3) Lean Forward

4) Eye Contact

5) Relax

Give examples of what she talked about

Be professional, acknowledge diversity in age and developmental level and be mindful of how you speak. No assumptions!

1) Safety

2) Calmness

3) Connectedness

4) Self and Community Self-Efficacy

5) Hope

1) Contact and Engagement

2) Safety and Comfort

3) Stabilization

4) Info Gathering

5) Practical Assistance

6) Connect with Special Support

7) Info on Coping

8) Link with Collaborative Services

1) Harmonizing Approach

2) Developmental Approach

3) Constructivist Approach

2) Environment

3) Harmony between the two

Person-Environment Fit

1)Realistic

2) Investigative

3) Artistic

4) Social

5) Enterprising

6) Conventional

-A continuous process (childhood to old age)

-Influenced by different situational (school, family, economy, etc.) and personal (needs, interests, values, etc.) factors

-Composed of different roles (parent, spouse, worker, etc.)

-Experiences across life cycles, each implying a transition period

-Growth

-Exploration

-Establishment

-Maintenance

-Disengagement

OR

-Crystallization

-Specification

-Implementation

-Stabilization

-Consolidation

-Values change as one acquires experiences and greater insight

-Interests are developed based on personally enjoyable experiences

-Genetics

-Environment

-Learning Experiences (Instrumental consequences and associative reactions)

-Information

1) Question

2) Persuade

3) Refer

1) Pre-counseling

2) Listening and Responding

3) Problem Identification

4) Resolution/Referral

5) Follow Up

-Approachability

-Availability

-Invitation

-SOLER

-Active Listening: Encouraging, restating, paraphrasing, questions, identification/reflection of feelings

-What is the issue?

-What have they tried?

-What have they thought about trying?

-Options?

-Consequences?

-What is ideal?

-What is realistic?

-What are some resources they need?

**Referrals are done WITH someone not FOR or TO someone**

-Information giving/education if needed

-Goals/agreements

-Who is the best person/office to help

-There should be at least one

1) Forming

2) Storming

3) Norming

4) Performing

5) Adjourning

-Time

-Approachability

-Place

-Space

-Availability

-Power

-Active Listening

-Uh huh

-Hmmm

-I see

-Right

-Okay

How?

-Restating

-Paraphrasing

What?

-Content

-Feelings

-Content and Feelings

-Meaning

"I THINK vs I FEEL"

"You feel _____ because _____"

"You feel (specific emotion) because (the facts of the situation that account for that emotion)"

"You feel (specific emotion) because the (personal meaning behind the situation that accounts for the feeling.)"

-Interrogation (Too many questions put the client on the defensive; give too much power to the interviewer)

-Multiple Questions (Clients can be confused by many questions at once)

-Questions as statements ("Don't you think it would helpful if you studied more?")

-"Why?" questions (Can cause defensiveness and discomfort)

-Too much control (Questioner is in control: who talks about what, when, and under what conditions)

-Vulnerability

-Shame

-Numbing

"What will you life be like when you have resolved this difficulty?"

"On a scale of 0-10 with 0 being no fear and 10 being the highest possible fear, what number would illustrate your current level of anxiety about the exam?"

"Suppose that one night there was a miracle while you were sleeping and the problem that brought you to therapy is solved. How would you know?"

-Client is considering harming themselves or someone else or you think they might be (immediate)

-Problem is clearly beyond your scope in your helping role: possible psychosis, traumatic experiences, eating disorders, the client isn't functioning well (eating, sleeping, hygiene), issues of child/elder abuse, needs for couple's or family counseling

-Make the referral with confidence

-Give as much information as you can: name of agency, phone number, how to set up an appointment

-Give the student the responsibility for setting up the appointment, unless it is an emergency

-The referral shouldn't come up as a total surprise

-Use the word counselor or counseling is sometimes less threatening than a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist

-Normalizing the experience as much as possible

-At least once: ask how the student is doing with the issue and/or if they were able to make contact with the referral

State One

-Shock

-Disbelief

-Denial

Stage Two

-Fear, Anger, Confusion, Guilt, Shame, Grief

Stage Three

-Reconstruction of equilibrium

-Emotional roller coaster becomes balanced but never goes back to how it was before the crisis.